Montag, 11. Mai 2015
Tolerance Is Indifference.
The zone where altruism mostly happens is in one way or the other a forced setting. Not do only problems give opportunity to goodness, or the availability to see problems, it is also the inescapability. Even it is so, like been shown in the mere exposure effect, that people tend to learn to live with certain others. Unrelated with the fact they would otherwise join them in their lives. This is such a chance for self-oganization studies. Even it builds further on the research on Organizational Citizenship Behavior (OCB) that I did in group together for a course. There was found that people tend to replace their frustration with the so known own bonds into conflict when help is not by free will. So the mere exposure effect could have a function. My question in all this, is that we rather use a sort of ideal self which only gives us real trouble when we are not able to live with the new person. This can be due to different factors, like a bad character yourself (easily reacting sensitive to certain different aspects) or many other opportunities in social contact. It easily seems to be by reason of the person who is not wanting. Which seems not really congruent with individualistic standards. Also self-regulation as a theory stresses these standards quite clearly. So is there really no space for diversity of groups and altruism? If it all depends on the characteristics you have yourself. The power of love often enough is dependent on the will to place yourself under someone else. This is what my experience gives in. When you stop doing that, or when you have not enough reserve and strength to do that. Relationships based on difference often seem to give trouble. They can still live, and love can be the case, but there is also a feeling of having no perspective. Into others, into life, into self-regulation. It all seems to depend on some new trait you found in the other. But what could that be? Strict features like age, beauty, intelligence, experience, politeness, kindness, warmth, entourage, power, style, funniness, general behavior, modesty, history, intentionality, ethnicity, political preference, ... will not give that new unique feeling as with that different one. We don't live our lives by types but by a certain intrinsic process woven into the culture or non-culture we live by. I guess this different trait is always related with a certain modest attentiveness. Still if it then depends on the person who you are, which gives you the preference of the doubt. Are people really so tolerant towards others in new groups?